Think back through all the rom coms, tv shows, even novels you’ve read where a couple is arguing or calling into question whether or not their partner loves them. Countless times, the argument goes something like this, “You never say you love me” and the response is “Well I show you I love you!!”, but somehow their partner is not convinced.
What the heck is happening here? Taking a careful look, two things pop out. One partner needs to hear that they are loved while the other says they show them that they’re loved. This fictional couple is frustrated because they’re not speaking each other’s love language.
In 1992, Dr. Gary Chapman gave the world a new way of looking at love with his book The Five Love Languages. He outlined five very different ways that people feel loved and appreciated, and that each person usually communicates most comfortably in one of the five. He outlines them as: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. In a time where we can all use a little more love, compassion and support, we thought we’d offer some tips to help get you in sync with your loved ones.
So let’s take a look at how we can all love a little louder today. But before we start, we recommend that you take the love languages quiz! You can find it here and once you’ve completed it pass it on, urge your loved ones to take it and discover how you can strengthen your relationships and spread the love with those around you .
Here at Moonglow, we strive to be experts when it comes to showcasing those loving moments, helping people remember the times throughout their lives that they love and cherish most.
Here are some recommendations, to speak with love to those in your life…
Words of Affirmation
Words are extremely powerful for those with this love language. And they don’t have to come from books of poetry. Simple things and small messages can go a long way. We love the idea of a special message engraved on one of our pieces, things like: “I love you/you are loved”, “You are my moon and stars”, “home is with you”, or “why I do what I do”. Have a little more to say? Consider adding a greeting card and give them a little more detail on why you chose your engraved message!
Acts of Service
Actions speak louder than words for those who speak predominately in Acts of Service. Helping with things that your loved one would otherwise have to do themselves is a great way to start! We suggest surprising them with some unannounced actions, maybe it’s walking the dog, mowing the lawn, doing some household chores, or folding the laundry.
If you really want to get in their good books, you can even consider surprising them with something like breakfast in bed and a token that says you’re thinking of them. Here we think the Positive Energy Bracelet is the perfect fit, simple yet impactful, like helping with small chores, this piece is a great way to say they’re in your thoughts in all that you do.
Often times this love language can be misinterpreted as materialistic, but we don’t see it that way. Instead, those whose communication revolves around receiving gifts will appreciate small things that are special to them.
Something like picking up their coffee order or bringing home their favourite treat can speak volumes. Moonglow offers a very special piece, an astrological fingerprint of the alignment of the planets during a special moment in time with the Signature Sky Map necklace, a piece that would speak volumes to someone who feels appreciated through tangible tokens of affection.
Undivided attention and time together without any distractions. Whether it’s doing something as simple as going on a walk together or working through a puzzle, people that rank quality time above other love languages need a little time dedicated to them.
We think that dedicating a moment in time is a great way to remind your loved one that you appreciate them and the time you get to spend together. The Sky Light Necklace allows you to remember a special moment in time, whether its a first date, an anniversary or a special inside joke. Those that love through quality time will be sure to treasure this memento of quality time spent together.
To be emotionally connected, sometimes you have to be physically connected. We don’t mean over the top displays of PDA but being close physically can strengthen your relationship with those whose love language is physical touch.
A long hug, a squeeze of the arm, a brush of their hand, all little touches that make a big impact. Keeping in mind that we don’t always get to be together with our loved ones we love the idea of gifting them the Milestone Moon Ring a piece that will sit on their hand, wrapped around their finger reminding them, they are loved.
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